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I don't think letting them wear what they want and call themselves what they want is akin to giving them a scalpel.
There've been 3 suicides at my daughters' two colleges in the last 2 weeks. Kids today are under so much pressure. I realized several years ago that the biggest parenting mistake I was making was trying to create the perfect family with the perfect kids and make sure everything always went according to my plan. I did not even realize the pressure I was putting on my kids.
What kids need more than anything from their parents is unconditional acceptance and love. They need to know their home is the place where they can be who they are and feel loved and accepted. If anyone thinks they are going to stave off transgenderism in their kid by forbidding it, I think there is a fairly large body of evidence that it won't work and will only harm the child by teaching them that who they are inside is bad and wrong. Confidence in their true identity comes from that security that is developed at home.
Again, I realize my parenting philosophy differs a lot from many here. That's ok. I haven't had to deal with this particular issue but I have had to deal with a few other issues and I can only imagine this would be gut wrenching. Seeing your child suffer is the worst feeling there is and most of us will do what we can to make things better. Unless there's some reason to think these parents have some kind of twisted motives I would support them in doing what they feel is best for their child and their family.
This is not meant as an insult to you or any of your friends' parenting, but I think modern parenting styles are creating mentally weak kids who are completely unable to handle everyday pressures of life. I think this is what is causing the huge uptick in depressions/suicides. Kids used to be able to adapt to difficulties and problem solve them. Now they feel helpless because they haven't been taught any coping skills at home, which leads to a lot of depression. We tell our kids growing up that they are perfect, they are the best, they can never be wrong. Then when they start facing adversity and have to face the concept that they might not be the greatest, smartest and most special kid on the planet, they are not equipped to process it. Plus we want to solve all of their problems and fight all of their battles for them. I feel it's making them emotional cripples. That's just my 2 cents anyway.
Yes I try to make my own kids feel special and I try to make them feel confident about things. What I refuse to do is blow smoke up their ***** and lead them to believe they are somehow superior to everyone else and that they are the greatest at everything they do, which is an obvious fact to them that they aren't. I think kids deep down, appreciate honesty and reality when it's presented to them, rather than being coddled and built up to be something they are not. That creates a lot of pressure and unattainable standards when reality comes crashing down.
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