There are definitely racist people in the country, but it also goes both ways. I know black families who have disowned their daughter / son because they were dating a white person. My GF is latino and her blood family is highly against her dating me because I am white. There are racists among people of all cultures / races. I think the outrage from the black community is very disproportionate to what is really going on. For example lets say Johnny is 15 and black, holds up a store doesnt obey police orders and gets shot by a white cop. This would make national headlines there would be protests etc etc......Now lets say Johnny gets involved in a gang and gets shot by a rival gang. It may make the local news / paper, but be a blip on the radar. I think black leaders should focus on fixing the communities rather than trying to blame white people for everything.
I am living this right now. Right this minute.
My older son played HS football with this guy. My son was to be the QB but this kid transfers to the school. The transfer finished HS shattering every HS passing record of note, took the team to back to back State Title games. Got himself a D1 scholarship. Through it all, my son and this kid become tremendous friends.
He's black. As are many, many of my kids friends. As is the young man my family mentors who spends 2-3 weekends a month with us.
My son is home from college. Couple weeks ago asks if K (I'll call him K) can stay with us. Says he is flying home from college and didn't want to go to his home. I'm like how long? He's like not sure. I said yes he's welcome for as long as he needs.
K moves in on a Sunday. Turns out he's having issues at home with his dad - still. Hadn't seen his dad, mom, and three siblings since January, but instead of going home, he moves into my house.
In HS his dad didn't want him to have girlfriends. When they found out he had a white GF, dad went nuts. Coaches had to get involved. His dad threatened to move them home to NC. Kicked him out and he stayed with friends. Year or so later, K gets a new girlfriend. She's Hispanic. That was fine. He never said a word...
So K stays with us for the week, grabs all his college stuff on Friday (stayed 5 days), thanks us for everything and left to go home, lying to his parents that he just got off the plane that day.
Sunday my son calls me from his job. Panicked he says "can K come back and stay with us?"
I said "sure but why, what's going on?"
Son: "His dad found out he had a gf. When he found out his gf was white, they were driving on the highway and his dad pulled over, kicked him out and left him on the highway, I'm so f@#$ing mad dad."
K showed up at my house Sunday night. He's here now. May be here all summer.
I told my son a day or so later, K's dad is a racist. Plain and simple. And it goes both ways. And sadly it's affecting his son's life, negatively.
And because of racism, I'm feeding and housing another young man perhaps for the rest of the summer.
Not that I mind, I love having the kids around.
EDIT: my son just walks in. He took K to work. I asked him if things had worked yet between K and his dad. Son says "Well he went by his house yesterday to pick up the rest of his things. His dad said to K '
You know you still have a home here - once you let that girl go.'
No kidding.